Dating over 40
In my opinion, most people set the bar far too high when it comes to dating. And believe me, you know what those clues are — that funny feeling in your gut that tells you something isn't quite right.When you’re ‘youngish’, free and single, meeting someone new is easier than you might think.“Prince or Princess Charming is not going to break down your door,” says Carle.
“The objective is to grow from every dating situation,” points out Gilda Carle, Ph. “So somebody younger will bring a different perspective into your life, just as somebody older might.” Passé policy: Date one-on-one—double and group dates are for kids New rule: Go ahead and go out with friends!
Yet the ‘single over 40’ myth of diminishing chances at a crossroads in life still lingers, especially among those single men and women over 40 themselves.
The truth is there’s never been a better time to date.
More casual activities — going bowling, hitting some galleries, taking a walk in the park — can help you see someone’s true nature.
Suggests Anapol, “Save the fancy dinner date for when you know you care for this person and are starting a real relationship, so it’s more of a celebration than an artificial exercise.” Passé policy: Don’t let your children know you’re dating—it’s too confusing for them New rule: Don’t call it dating; call it “making friends” Even the littlest kids can feel insecure by the connotations of the word “date,” but you don’t want to lie to them. “It’s best not to involve your kids in a new relationship until you feel that it has the potential to go somewhere,” says relationship coach Toni Coleman, MSW.
One thing I've learned, however, is that the dating "basics" are still the same as when women were "foxy," and men were "fine" (and if you're unfamiliar with those terms, you're definitely not over 40.